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Information and articles related to Hypnotherapy, NLP and EFT and how these therapies can help to resolve issues such as Depression, Anxiety, weight issues, smoking and trauma.

By rebeccasuttonhypnotherapy, Oct 19 2016 12:47PM

A negative internal dialogue is something that can contribute to depression. When we feel depressed, our inner voice can reflect that, which unfortunately can be a vicious circle. When you find your inner voice saying things that are hurtful, or mean about yourself, that makes you feel so much worse and adds to the problem.


To change the way you feel about that voice, firstly understand that just because you think it, that doesn't make it true. It's just a thought and as such can be changed. When you find yourself being critical or harsh with yourself, ask yourself if you would speak to, or judge someone you care deeply about in that way? And if there was someone outside of you following you around all the time saying these things, would you accept it in the same way? Chances are you'd tell them where to get off pretty quick! So you don't have to accept it in your head either, and this technique can help...


Imagine that the negative inner voice, for example which tells you "You'll never be happy", has a set of sliding controls, for volume, pitch, distance, location and type. Rate the intensity out of ten of how you feel when you hear that voice, ten being the worst. Then, change the volume, make it come from further away or from a different place, make it squeaky or slow it right down, or change into that of a cartoon character. Repeat the statement in all the different ways above and notice how you feel when you do this. See which makes the most difference to you and keep repeatedly changing any statement or internal dialogue that make you feel worse in this way, and it WILL change the way you feel about it.


The opposite applies to thoughts that make you feel good. When you say positive statements to yourself, turn up the volume, make the inner voice warm and appealing and positively emotive. Make the voice belong to someone you respect or admire and make it compelling for you.

By rebeccasuttonhypnotherapy, Oct 19 2016 12:42PM

When I was a child I had monsters everywhere. Under my bed, in the wardrobe, behind the curtains and I even remember once lying frozen in bed too scared to even shout for my mum, for fear that the 'mad axe man' would get me - (my friend Julie was responsible for that particular urban legend reaching my ears, thanks for that by the way!).


In short, my fears terrorised me. My mum must have felt helpless and could do no more than reassure me that there was nothing there and nothing to be scared of. Which of course didn't help. I slept with the light on but still spent many nights hiding under my duvet.


When my little girl first began suffering from nightmares, I had recently qualified as a Hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, so we spent some time experimenting to see which technique worked best for monster slaying.


The first thing we tried was to change the colour of the monster. We made him pink with yellow spots and lots of frizz. Then we made him smaller and shrunk him down to half the size. Finally we gave him a silly voice and a rather unfortunate flatulence problem which tended to occur when he walked, in time with his steps.


By this point my daughter was giggling like mad, and from then till now, she saw that the monster was quite ridiculous and therefore completely useless at scaring people. She actually found some sympathy and felt quite sorry for the monster, being so useless at his job and all.


From then onwards, she was the one in control. The monsters still pop by occasionally but all we need to do is remember the monsters' little 'problem' and she just can't take them seriously.

By rebeccasuttonhypnotherapy, Oct 19 2016 12:36PM

One of the biggest obstacles to creating the life and future that you dream of, can be the occurance of negative thoughts. Thinking of what has happened in the past, worries of what might happen in the future, these all have an impact on the way we feel in the present and therefore affect what we attract into our lives.


Even though we may know logically and consciously what we should be doing (ie thinking positive thoughts) sometimes it can be really difficult to know HOW to change our negative thinking and what we need to do to stop those thoughts when they arise.


Unfortunately we don't come with an instruction manual and we tend to find that the more we try not to do something, the harder it is to stop. One of the main reasons for this is that your unconscious mind doesn't recognise negatives, such as no, stop and don't. For example if someone were to say to you "Whatever you do, DON'T think about a pink elephant!" - you think of a pink elephant. You can't help it - in order to dismiss something, you have to first think about it.


For example when you say to yourself "DON'T think about that" you are actually telling yourself in fact think TO about it, and including that into your thoughts. However when you change whatever you don't want into what you do want, for example, instead of "Don't forget your keys" you say "Remember your keys", you include remembering your keys into your experience. If you ever find yourself saying what you don't want to happen, use that to imagine what you do want, instead.


You can change how you feel about your thoughts, by using the way that your mind naturally processes information. When you think of a memory that you feel very strongly about, either positively or negatively, you experience it with your senses. You may get a visual image in your mind's eye, you may have sounds or voices connected to it, it may even have smells and tastes and you will also get a feeling that goes with it.


When you have a strong emotional reaction about something, those senses tend to be amplified, so the image will probably be a movie as opposed to a still image, brightly coloured, quite close and big and you may be imagining it through your own eyes. The sounds may be quite loud, clear and near and you may get a physical sensation in your body that matches the emotion.


If your thought is one that makes you feel strongly negative, you can adjust each one of those factors so that your brain interprets the information differently and therefore doesn't react in the same way. So for a negative visual image you can:


Imagine you can see yourself in the image instead of through your own eyes.

If it's a movie, make it into a still image.

Make the picture black and white, and push it further away.

Shrink the image or make it see through


For auditory elements, such as a negative internal dialogue, you can:


Turn the volume down

Make it come from further away from you or a different place

If it's an internal voice, change it into a funny voice, such as your favourite comedian or cartoon character.

Make it softer and kinder


On the flip side, you can also use this to create compelling visual images of what you do want, which helps with manifesting your desires. To do this, reverse the above - make images more colourful, bigger, bring it closer and see through your own eyes. Turn sounds up, make them clearer and surround sound or give your image an inspiring or motivating soundtrack. When you say positive things to yourself, say them in your mind loudly in an excited, motivated tone of voice (or calm, relaxed etc).


Your mind is an incredible learning machine, and it doesn't take it very long to learn new ways of thinking about something. If you keep repeating your adjustments, your brain learns to think in the new way and does it automatically for you. Then by being able to adjust your thoughts so you can feel better right now, manifesting what you do want instead of what you don't, becomes a lot easier.

By rebeccasuttonhypnotherapy, Oct 19 2016 12:27PM

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is one of the most exciting and powerful breakthroughs in the field of psychology to emerge in recent years. EFT is an emotional, needle free version of acupuncture or acupressure based on proven scientific principles and uses the theory that all negative emotions are the result of disruptions in the body’s energy system.


We all know how the mind can affect the body and the negative effects of stress are well documented. What is now being discovered is just to what extent unresolved emotion can affect us, on an emotional but also physical level, even to the point of causing illness, pain or severe emotional disturbance.


By tapping on certain acupuncture points on the face and body known as meridians, while focusing the mind on the problem at hand, these disruptions are removed and the problem disappears. Thousands of people with a broad range of issues have benefited from applying EFT and getting incredible results, when nothing else has worked previously.


EFT works with both emotional problems and physical symptoms and can dramatically bring relief, sometimes within minutes. Results are usually rapid, long lasting and measurable. Problems such as anxiety, depression, panic attacks, physical pain, illness and lack of self esteem, confidence or self worth – EFT can help.


As an advanced EFT practitioner I have seen so many people achieve amazing results with this technique, I believe strongly that with EFT you can not only achieve relief from your problems, but learn an incredible method of self healing that you will use for the rest of your life.

By rebeccasuttonhypnotherapy, Oct 19 2016 12:20PM

Neuro Linguistic Programming is the study of the structure of our internal experience and has been described as an ‘Instruction Manual for the Brain’ or ‘The Art and Science of Effective Communication’. It is a set of ideas and methods developed in the 1970’s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder of understanding and changing the way that we think, feel and behave.


NLP is the process of understanding how people organise their thoughts, language, feelings and behaviour to produce the results that they do. We know that the way we think has an effect on the way we feel and this is something that is often taken for granted. Top athletes know the importance of having the correct state of mind when performing, and this is something that anyone can learn to do with NLP by understanding how this state of mind is achieved.


By understanding that we form our beliefs and internal map of the world as a result of our experiences we can begin to realise why we sometimes experience emotional problems. If you were constantly told as a child that you are stupid for example, you accept this into your programming and on some level believe it to be true. When you experience a traumatic event, the part of the mind which is designed to protect you (the unconscious mind) can sometimes deal with the trauma by overprotecting you, resulting in problems ranging from anxiety and phobias to extreme Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.


NLP can help you to understand your own ‘programming’, and why you behave, think and feel in the way that you do. By understanding how your mind operates, you can begin to feel how you want to feel, overcome the past and develop new ways of thinking and being that are more positive and fulfilling.


• NLP uses simple techniques which are incredibly effective.

• NLP teaches you how to be healthier, to be free from anxiety and to be more confident

• When NLP is combined with hypnosis and EFT the results are often life-changing.

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